User blog comment:CykeP/I need some unbiased advice/@comment-53539-20160308074415

To give an opinion does invoke some "bias" of form though. ^_^'

Sometimes the only thing is to just talk about it and ask politely if something is up. Don't just blurt it out though - use tact. Invite her to come have a drink with you or some other casual activity and just bring it up in conversation after talking about other things. If you approach it roughly and blurt it out, she may feel offended or get the wrong impression, so you have to ease into things carefully. Her circle is her security blanket for the most part socially. I wouldn't approach her in the circle or with friends unless your inviting her out to social event that won't bring it up t all. She may feel threatened without her circle around if there are too many people approaching her.

While her talking about you behind her back is bad... Do consider that perhaps you yourself are technically doing that right now in this blog... And to a wider audience to hear then a handful of school students. ^_^'

This also creates a problem if you do talk about it to the rest of your friends, I might also add as you risk doing to her what she is doing to you. Unless she is invited in on the conversation, you will only end up talking behind her back in response to her doing the same.

I'm just going to talk about social circles for a moment, so I'll split this.

People have lives to lead and go their separate ways. After highschool they see each other collectively maybe once in a blue moon. It just happens... Hell, even the other guy living in my landlady's house who is friendly and highly social has noted that over the last 5 years, his circle has split. And a lot of it has to do with nothing more then just 3 members of it starting families, and only 1 member staying in the same area he'd always lived in, the rest moved away. :-/

Highshool only seems like its solid enough because you see the same group together every day. You have to bare that in mind, that the here and now is only a brief period of your life.

There is a lot of advice out there about it you can find on google. People tend to overact, giving the people who talk behind others back more fuel. Ignoring it isn't always the solution though... So thin hard about this and go read some advice on those sites. They are done by experts. Sadly, I will note as "expert" as those peeps are, from experience of watching circles at highschool and after it... Honestly humans are not always black and white like that.